Understanding Our Implicit Biases and Their Impact on Life
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Chapter 1: The Universality of Bias
No one is exempt from bias; it influences our perceptions and actions. Each individual's viewpoint is inherently colored by their unique experiences and background. This means that predicting how someone will react or what they believe is an impossible task.
The only means we have to understand what others are experiencing is through empathy—“I can relate!” Have you ever found yourself saying that? However, we all possess different genetic traits, resilience levels, and problem-solving skills. Two people can face the same situation but respond in entirely different ways.
You might think they should handle it as you did, or at least apply the lessons you've learned. But remember, everyone is built differently. It's like expecting a Prius to accelerate to 60 mph at the same speed as a Ferrari. While they are both on the same road under similar conditions, they are fundamentally different machines.
This analogy applies to us as well. I cannot claim to fully understand the struggles of someone dealing with chronic anxiety. Although I experience anxiety occasionally and have my own coping strategies, what works for me may not resonate with you. Nonetheless, I can still offer my support.
Section 1.1: The Illusion of Expertise
It seems like we all consider ourselves experts in our own right. We often convince ourselves that our approach is superior or the most valid. When we navigate through challenges successfully, we may feel entitled to advise others on their personal journeys.
Yet, this sense of entitlement is misplaced. It doesn't matter how competent you think you are as a parent, how effectively you manage your mental health, or what accolades you possess. There is no objective way to determine who should be the go-to person for advice. Your biases might steer me away from what truly benefits me.
Conversely, it's wise to learn from the mistakes of others. Observing how someone else navigates their challenges can provide valuable insights. However, we cannot assume that anyone else holds the key to resolving our specific difficulties.
Section 1.2: The Need for Humility
Support is invaluable. Having someone to turn to for advice when needed is essential, as we all require a safe space to express ourselves and seek guidance. However, humility must accompany this support.
When I engage with someone in crisis at work, they are not concerned with my qualifications. Their primary focus is on feeling heard and understood. They seek connection and reassurance that they are not alone, rather than my expertise or insights about potential solutions.
Perhaps what we all desire is safety and relief from our pain. The next time you offer help, consider simply listening. Avoid imposing your biases and opinions; just be present. We often don't need to express every emotion we feel publicly, as most of us may not be genuinely interested.
Chapter 2: The Value of Listening
The first video, "We all have implicit biases. So what can we do about it? | Dushaw Hockett," discusses the nature of biases and strategies for addressing them.
The second video, "Are you biased? I am | Kristen Pressner | TEDxBasel," explores personal biases and the importance of self-awareness in our interactions.