Revising Goals: The Importance of Focused Numbers in Life
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Chapter 1: The Realization of Pain Points
Last week, I had a revelation that shifted my perspective on goal-setting. It was surprising to realize how blind I had been to a source of discomfort in my life. For instance, I thought I could manage without slippers when heading to my son’s room to turn off the night light. That was a mistake, especially in a house filled with Lego pieces.
This is similar to the pitfalls of focusing on the wrong milestones in life. In the Numbers Game, it’s essential to concentrate on the metrics that truly matter to avoid unnecessary stress.
After proudly documenting my monthly goals for February, I encountered an issue. While these targets were designed to push me beyond my comfort zone, I soon realized that many of them were misguided.
My planner for February 2024 reveals targets that aren’t directly under my influence: subscribers, followers, income, and ad revenue. On the other hand, what is within my control includes the number of articles I write and videos I publish.
Epictetus, in The Enchiridion, perfectly captures this distinction: “Some things are in our control and others not...”
Section 1.1: The Power of Focus
Embracing Stoic philosophy can provide clarity. I cannot dictate whether someone chooses to subscribe or make a purchase. By fixating on these external numbers, I am essentially tying my happiness to factors beyond my control, which is not a life I want to lead.
Instead, I should concentrate on what I can control—my own output. Did I write today? Yes, I did. And that deserves recognition!
In the video "Writing to Awaken: Memoir as a Path of Healing," Mark Matousek discusses how memoir writing can serve as a healing journey. This resonates with my experience of shifting focus from external validation to personal milestones.
Section 1.2: Embracing What We Control
Finishing Epictetus’ quote reveals profound insight: “The things in our control are free, unrestrained... but those not in our control are weak...” This wisdom reminds us that if we cling to things we cannot control, we will only invite distress and dissatisfaction into our lives.
Chapter 2: Reflecting on Your Own Metrics
So, I ask you, have you been fixated on the wrong metrics?
In the video "Witty Numbers: Ben Jonson's Shakespeare First Folio Jest in Focus," Roger Stritmatter explores how humor can be derived from literary works, inviting us to reflect on our own interpretations and the metrics we value.
Hello! I’m Chloe, navigating the challenges of being a creative solopreneur while raising a child and experiencing the complexities of life in my 40s. If my journey resonates with you, consider following along for more insights!