Chapter 1: Understanding the Signs of Boredom

Boredom can be a subtle yet significant trigger for an existential crisis. Take, for example, Carol, a 33-year-old woman who, despite being in a stable relationship and having a job, feels a sense of emptiness. Each evening, she unwinds with a glass of wine and indulges in reality TV, but the spark in her life has faded. She loves her partner, yet feels too uninterested to engage intimately. While her social, financial, and physical health seem adequate, her mental well-being is under strain. She confides in me, saying, "I think I'm facing an existential crisis." The truth is, she’s teetering on the edge of one.

How do we assess our emotional state?

When I first arrived in the UK, I was struck by the banal exchanges of “How are you?” and the generic response of “I’m fine, thanks.” The word “fine” encapsulates a desire to mask true feelings. Over time, I’ve adopted phrases like “never been better” or “it’s a bit rough, but I’m managing” to encourage self-reflection. This practice allows me to genuinely check in with myself, helping to avert the chaos that can ensue from unchecked emotions.

Section 1.1: The Dangers of Being "Fine"

Merely being "fine" can lead to stagnation. This term is often used to gloss over deeper issues, much like the word "interesting," which lacks substance. Thriving, on the other hand, requires self-awareness and gratitude for what we possess. It involves recognizing our aspirations and actively pursuing them, even when we’re in the process of growth.

Note: Acknowledging that we are on a journey, rather than stagnant, is essential for maintaining a thriving life.

Subsection 1.1.1: Recognizing Boredom

You may be experiencing boredom if you frequently describe yourself as “fine.” A lack of gratitude and an unclear vision for the future can be telltale signs. If you find yourself aimlessly busy without fulfillment, you’re likely caught in a cycle that could spiral into more severe issues, including addiction and self-destructive behaviors.

Chapter 2: Steps to Avoid an Existential Crisis

To combat boredom, it's vital to engage in self-reflection. Start by asking yourself, "How am I really doing?"

Set aside 20 minutes to jot down everything you’re grateful for. Once you’ve created your list, assess whether any of these items relate to how you spend your daily life, particularly your job or hobbies.

• Are you satisfied with the time devoted to what you love?
• Do you feel unfulfilled because your job doesn’t align with your passions?
• Are you aware of what truly brings you joy?

These reflections are designed to help you identify the root causes of your dissatisfaction and prevent a potential crisis.

If work is the primary source of your unhappiness, consider exploring additional resources.

The first video, "How to Overcome an Existential Crisis | Being Well Podcast, Dr. Rick Hanson," offers insights on managing existential worries and finding purpose.

The second video, "Five Ways to Overcome an Existential Crisis," presents practical strategies to navigate feelings of existential dread.

By addressing these critical questions and reflecting on your emotional state, you can begin to steer your life toward fulfillment, rather than despair.