Chapter 1: The Roots of Self-Worth

Reflect for a moment on these questions before diving into the rest of this article:

• What do you feel you deserve in life?
• Are you comfortable with receiving?
• Do you encounter challenges in achieving your desires due to various obstacles?
• Are you struggling to meet your needs in areas like relationships, career, or finances?

These questions may seem daunting, but I encourage you to journal your reflections after reading. It’s essential to recognize that we often receive what we believe we deserve. Let’s delve deeper into this concept.

Many of us carry self-worth issues from our childhood, which can lead us to accept less than we deserve. For instance, I remember my father often saying I would never be successful because I struggled with simple tasks. Though I didn’t grasp its full impact at the time, those words became deeply ingrained in my mind. Like many in my generation, I developed self-esteem issues around my worthiness due to this belief. Have you faced similar experiences during your upbringing?

In adulthood, I began a journey of self-inquiry to address these limiting beliefs. It wasn’t solely my father’s influence; I played a role in accepting the negative messages I received. Interestingly, my mother provided a loving and nurturing environment, constantly uplifting me with positive affirmations. So why did I internalize my father’s criticisms over my mother’s encouragement?

Psychologists explain this phenomenon through negativity bias, which is inherent in our DNA, making us more attuned to negative feedback. I’m not alone in navigating these childhood challenges; I’ve coached many individuals who have undergone similar experiences, whether from parents, teachers, coaches, or loved ones. Each of them internalized negative messages that hindered their self-esteem.

Chapter 2: Embracing Deservedness

“Life is challenging for everyone. But what does that mean? We must cultivate perseverance and, above all, trust in ourselves. We need to recognize that we are destined for greatness and that this greatness must be achieved.” — Marie Curie

How can we heal from our childhood wounds to become better at receiving? I believe self-inquiry is key to understanding ourselves more deeply. Some may find it beneficial to work with a therapist to address past traumas. Regardless, it’s crucial to navigate and heal emotional scars to move forward.

Consider this: life is not against you; it desires to offer you all the abundance you deserve. However, you must first confront the barriers that prevent you from receiving it. It’s futile to lament your current circumstances while simultaneously wishing for more when you subconsciously feel unworthy.

To embrace a richer existence, we must first believe we are entitled to it. This involves rewriting the narratives of our childhood and viewing them through a lens of compassion, even towards those who wronged us. I’m not suggesting we condone abusive behavior, but rather inviting forgiveness for ourselves and those who contributed to our pain.

One of the most profound realizations I’ve had over the last decade is that my father’s role was instrumental in my journey toward self-worth. Had I not faced those challenges, I might not value myself as I do today. My emotional scars have helped me uncover my true worth. While they are not the sole factors inhibiting our ability to receive blessings, they play a significant role.

When we shed the fragmented stories of our undeservedness, we create space for our lives to thrive. I know individuals who have diligently worked to heal their childhood wounds yet still feel trapped in their suffering. It’s essential to recognize that healing is a process without a strict timeline—it can be a gradual awakening.

Ultimately, this journey requires letting go of what no longer serves us, paving the way for a life filled with peace and joy. We must believe that we deserve a life of abundance. This doesn’t imply that we won’t face challenges; rather, when we reconcile with our childhood wounds, they no longer hold us captive.

With this in mind, please take a moment to journal your responses to the initial four questions. Reflect deeply on what may be hindering you from receiving more. If we truly believe we deserve more, we must alter our relationship with ourselves to attract what aligns with our higher selves.

The first video, "DECIDE WHAT YOU DESERVE - Motivational Speech," emphasizes the importance of self-worth and the power of belief in shaping our lives. It encourages viewers to take charge of their self-perception and understand that they are worthy of great things.

The second video, "You don't get what you deserve. You get what you negotiate. Interview with Chris Orlob," explores the idea that understanding our value and negotiating for what we want are essential steps toward achieving our goals.

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